we all have bad days…:-)

… but good days prevail… 🙂 motto:”La vie a des hauts et des bas, mais le destin – ça n’existe pas… c’est juste l’excuse de ceux qui ne veulent pas être responsables de leur vie.”(Guillaume Musso – “Je reviens te chercher…”)

il y a des gens qui sont persuadés qu’ils ne “méritent” pas d’être heureux: être fataliste comme Jacques – le célèbre personnage de Diderot, est un leurre négatif, une illusion perdue d’avance… nous avons tous une petite dose de masochisme, et nous devons refuser catégoriquement de nous tourmenter ou de nous empoisonner l’existence… notre vie est telle que nous la voyons via notre inconscient, nos pulsions, nos émotions, nos instincts, nos désirs, etc, donc son image d’ensemble est notre propre création… c’est comme “ça” qu’on explique pourquoi la vie est source de joie, de bonheur, de satisfaction pour certains, et de tristesse, de déprime, de malheur pour d’autres – qui d’ailleurs ne cessent de se contredire et de se plaindre… pour eux, la solution-miracle n’existe pas parce que ces personnes détestent la réalité en général – belle ou moche – et se réfugient dans leurs rêves ou dans leur imaginaire…

alors que souvent, ni l’un, ni l’autre ne les satisferont point, au contraire, ils accroîtront leurs envies et les éloigneront des moments de pure et simple joie qu’ils pourraient “savourer” tous les jours… les regrets ou les remords sont et seront complètement inutiles: ce qui est fait, est fait et il est toujours impossible(hélas!) de revenir dans le passé… l’expression “prendre sa vie en mains” est de rigueur et de circonstance: nous vivons une époque plutôt sceptique – voire tendance pessimiste, MAIS l’optimisme n’est pas la qualité ou la vertu des sots(idiots!), il est une conquête difficile et laborieuse de chaque esprit qui essaie (et parvient!) à rester suffisamment costaud devant les attaques extérieures, en retrouvant régulièrement des motifs de joie et de plaisir autour de lui – au moins de temps en temps… nous avons tous de mauvais jours, donc s’il nous arrive de plonger dans des puits sans fond, soyons alpinistes ou surfeurs et regardons en haut ou devant! 🙂
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pix taken @ Fuerteventura (Canary) island & Islote de Lobos – seawolves’ isle … 🙂

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motto:”Life has ups and downs, but fate does not exist… it’s just THE excuse of those who refuse to be responsible of their lives…”(Guillaume Musso – “I come back to pick you up…”)

there are people who strongly believe they don’t “deserve” to be happy:  being fatalist – like Diderot’s character “Jacques the Fatalist” – is a negative lure, an illusion lost from the very start… we all have a tiny dose of masochism, but we need to categorically refuse to torment ourselves or to poison our existence… our life appears to be the way we see it through our unconscious, impulses, emotions, instincts, desires, etc., so the overall picture is our own creation… which explains why life is a source of joy, happiness, satisfaction for some of us and sadness, depression, misery for others – in fact, they don’t cease to contradict themselves and to complain about everything… there’s no “miracle-solution” for them, because they simply dislike reality in general – lovely or ugly – and they take refuge in their dreams or in their fantasy…

well, often, neither one nor the other satisfy them, on the contrary, they increase their cravings and move them away from moments of sheer joy they could “savour” every day… regrets or remorse are and will be completely useless: what is done, is done and it’s always impossible (alas!) to return back in the past… the phrase “to take one’s life between one’s own hands = to take control of one’s life” is rigorous and it does make sense: we live in a skeptical world – even pessimistic, BUT optimism is not the quality or virtue of fools or idiots, it’s a hard and laborious conquest of each spirit who tries (and succeeds!) to be sufficiently sturdy to face external attacks, regularly finding some reasons of joy and delight – at least now and then… we all have bad days, so whenever we dive into bottomless pits, let’s turn into mountain/volcano climbers or surfers: let’s look up, ahead or forward! 🙂
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Daniel Powter – Bad Day…

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Posted on 12 November 2014, in melanie. Bookmark the permalink. 57 Comments.

  1. I made a one-word mistake with my Bergson quote. It should be “The eye [not The mind] sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.” Pardon!

    • “Les yeux voient seulement ce que l’esprit est préparé à comprendre. L’Homme s’est lui-même enfermé jusqu’à ne plus rien voir…”(Henri Bergson) – je préfère la version originale… 🙂

  2. Speaking of “our life appears to be the way we see it,” I’m reminded of this so-true quote by French philosopher Henri Bergson:”The mind sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.”

  3. Nothing better than to read a post of optimism and words to live & dream by… and great photos too! Well done Melanie, great post!

  4. Onward bound! My glass is always half full. Lovely Melanie! 🙂

  5. How I love the Musso quote… would that everyone took it to heart! 😉

  6. Great post! Your optimism is contagious. Life is good – keep smiling! 🙂

  7. Enjoyed your pics Melanie, especially the rock on the beach one. Not sure about the long trek you are climbing though. We must try to hold onto the positive aspects of our lives, this will always overcome negativity and despair. Ian

  8. Oui tu as raison, soyons tous alpinistes ou surfeurs sur la bonne vague pour ne pas sombrer dans le pessimisme ambiant! Bises!

  9. This post spoke to me. Thank you! 🙂

  10. what a wonderful message!!! Thank you for this post and great photos as always. PS: in response to your message @ messages in moderation – it’s easier for me to see them all and not miss any in replying!(if that makes sense, lol!)

  11. It is a good day when despite the ills of the world and the pain you see, feel and hear in the voices of the world, we can rise and say I am here and I will survive! sometimes we have little energy and must say, today I will find rest and peace. Tomorrow I will get up and fight again. Each day is a gift of new hopes, dreams and accomplishments. Good post! Yisraela

  12. Reminds me of this song: youtu.be/r_8ydghbGSg

  13. Les mauvais jours sont souvent suivis de meilleurs. Le tout est de ne pas l’oublier. A plus tard, Melanie.

  14. Yes Melanie! And it might be said that the good wouldn’t be as good without the knowledge of the bad! Much love to you, my friend. I can’t thank you enough for the wonderful love and support you show me! ❤

  15. I think unhappiness usually comes from the search of happiness! 😛 I guess it is like searching the comb that is already in your hair. It’s just there, without bad days, we wouldn’t appreciate the good ones. Your words bring me back memories of Voltaire’s Candide. A big hug from le Pérou, Mélanie 🙂

    • yep, right and correct for the comb: same with your eyeglasses upon your nose and you wonder where they’ve gone… 😉 I’ve liked Voltaire’s works since highschool, he did play with (his) life and he used to say:”beware of adults who don’t play anymore…” – I totally agree with him! gracias y abrazitos desde Francia, olé! 🙂
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      P.S. you do know the famous photographer Mario Testino – your fellow countryman, I presume: Italian papa and Irish mama… 🙂

      • Well, yes I do. Certainly Testino is one of the most famous Peruvians and in interviews he has a kind sould, I like so much his photographs, but I don’t know him personally, if I do I’d be a man with enough resources to travel in my private jet any weekend to the sweet Toulouse and share with you a bottle of Petrus wine! 😀 Muchas gracias por la gentileza Mélanie! ^_^ haha, one morning I was taking a shower after searching in vain for my eyeglasses, and the water didn’t touch my eyes… I had my eyeglasses on! 😀 … Nice phrase of Voltaire, is an antecedent to the dedicatory in the Little Prince of Saint-Exupéry, to the child inside a friend of him. Saludotes 😉

  16. Pozele tale mi-au făcut ziua bună. 😉

  17. Merci pour le rappel. Vos mots véhiculent une vérité universelle… et je me souviens de la pensée de Kahlil Gibran…

    On Joy and Sorrow – Kahlil Gibran

    Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain. Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter’s oven? And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives? When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

    Some of you say, “Joy is greater than sorrow,” and others say, “Nay, sorrow is the greatest.” But I say unto you, they are inseparable. Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed. Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy. Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.

  18. Nice pics, Mélanie. I am generally positive, but I do have my moments when worry takes over, and I have that little black cloud suspended over my head. Hubby is always positive, and soon dispels my fears. 🙂 I think some people really battle to stay positive, and of course, there are those who have a really tough life, so it must be difficult for them to always see the silver lining. Hugs to you. 🙂

  19. My bad days… are treated with a red wine and some music… 😉 eventually a bit good conversation…

  20. Love your words on optimism. It’s funny how some people can take offense in another’s ability to be optimistic. I completely agree that we choose our outlook on life, even when we don’t think we’re doing it.

  21. Good days do prevail. And I work hard at being positive and optimistic. It’s not an easy choice. Let’s climb those mountains Happy Cappy!

  22. More easily said than done for many! 🙂 I love the quote from Musso!

    • exactement, Miss J: theory often sounds easy, but putting it into practice may seem “le parcours du combattant”… 🙂 long story, very short: I’m not a fatalist gal! 🙂

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